This quote from Glennon Doyle stopped me in my tracks when I read it, because it is so true:
“Mothers have martyred themselves in their children’s names since the beginning of time. We have lived as if she who disappears the most, loves the most. We have been conditioned to prove our love by slowly ceasing to exist.“
And if this is how we are conditioned, subtly without us even realising it, then these are some of the ways that it might show up for you:
⚡Time – you feel like you need a whole extra day in the week to fit in what you need to do let alone have the time to look after you
⚡Energy – you feel drained, exhausted and don’t know where to start on how you would be kind to yourself
⚡Perfect mum – you feel like you have to balance and juggle everything otherwise you are failing at motherhood and there’s no time for you to focus on yourself
⚡Our own parenting – what was modelled to you? My mum never sat down or took time for herself let alone show herself kindness.
⚡Self-worth – you put yourself so far down on your list of priorities that even the chores come higher up on that list than you do (I’ve been there!)
So, how can we start being kinder to ourselves as mums?
❤ Start by taking tiny moments out of your day to be kind to yourself and talk to yourself the way you would to your best friend – this makes a huge difference.
❤ When you model being kind to yourself, you are teaching that to your children too.
🌟 What makes it hard for you to be kind to yourself? 🌟
Jenna Folarin 